Divorce is a life transition that can have a huge impact on many people. It can leave deep wounds on families that get passed from generation to generation. Many times, divorce is filled with anger, blame, shame and despair. Unfortunately, these situations can cause people to become very vindictive and have a desire to inflict pain on the other party.
These emotions are not easily forgotten especially when it comes to financial matters related to the divorce. Tammy Karas-Griggs knows how hard it is to go through something as painful as a divorce and cares deeply about the emotions of those going through it. Here are seven suggestions to avoid to help alleviate some of the pain of divorce.
Finding a good attorney
It’s important to know that the top return on google doesn’t necessarily mean that it’s the best. Many attorneys have paid more for advertising to make their name appear at the top of the list. It’s important to look at the reviews that are present and shop around for the right Attorney. Most Attorneys offer free consultations and you should have a consultation with at least three of them before deciding. Some law firms are actually divorce factories that run their prospective clients through a system to maximize their effectiveness of the practice, rather than catering to the individual client’s needs. Make sure that you choose an attorney that is really listening to what you are saying.
Taking the right advice
Many people are confused by the overload of available information on the web. It’s important to remember not to get caught up with the thousands of pages of data, opinions, articles, and editorial writings. Everyone’s divorce is completely unique and to rely on the musings and information from others’ experiences can be dangerous in your decision making.
Setting realistic expectations
Too many people have difficulty confronting the reality of their situation and are not honest with themselves about reasonable and rational expectations regarding outcomes, timing, and costs. When this life transition is occurring, it is important to be transparent. Emotions are raw and your usual mindset can be altered and letting your emotions take the forefront can lead to significant mistakes.
Honesty
Divorce is personal. People may be embarrassed to disclose all information to anyone: even an attorney. Keeping the truth from an attorney can hurt a divorce case so keep in mind that your attorney is your advocate, not someone who is there to judge.
Having the right people by your side
A proper support team might include a therapist, a financial planner, and friends who will be there for them throughout the process. An attorney is a great person to have as part of your support system but do not rely on them and only them.
Knowing the Facts
Some people enter this process having little to no financial information available. Do not avoid knowing all of the facts before this process so that you can avoid expensive mistakes and damaging to all parties.
Listening to the right people
People usually listen to their friends and relatives about their opinions on legal positions, rather than on their counsel’s advice. Check in with your attorney to make sure that your expectations are realistic.
Mandeville Divorce Attorney Tammy Karas-Griggs will help take the burden so you can rest easy. Especially if you feel like you are being threatened or if your spouse already has an attorney. If you are going through a tough time and need help, Tammy Karas-Griggs will help you every step of the way.
